I know that’s just how the world works.
We’re creatures of habit. Our competitiveness knows no bounds, we pounce onto our needs and wants, then devour. Call it what you want; law of nature, name of science.
I find it a little repulsive, and all quite a shame.
To hone in on why I’ve come to such kind of thoughts, it came from the fear of growing up.
Most of us who are 3 years into university, are obliged to really begin thinking about what we want to do for a living, and how we’re going to get there. It is no understatement to say that it is truly terrifying. We hear about our friends and family who are struggling to find jobs, who have to go rural, who have to bide one’s time … then to hear the extreme opposite, who were lucky enough to make it at prestigious and high paying establishments. It’s almost just as horrifying being the bystander as it is being the job seeker.
While it is all good and well, to spruce up an amazing resume, and an impressive cover letter. It is something else to socialise, liaise, make connections, form alliances..
It’s part of the deal, and it’s how you get to places, but for christ sakes – it is so unbelievably superficial. My boyfriend and I had talked about this before, and how much we resent the idea of being involved in a career that requires this “skill”. It sounds incredibly naive to say this, but the thought of manipulating or ‘persuading’ others or situations to one’s own advantage seems all too crude..almost animalistic.
However, as our time draws closer, it becomes more and more clear that no matter what field we find ourselves in, networking is always required. Small talk, sweet talk, sucking up, is all ‘part of the game’.
It’s funny I know my thoughts and blogs are always quite dramatic.. it’s just extremely unfortunate that life has to be this way. Values, integrity and good intentions seem to be pushed aside, gaining little consideration, or even completely thrown out the window. Let’s just take teaching as an example. If ‘playing the game’ holds as first priority for me to get a job, is there room left to simply say “I want this job because I want to help educate students so that they could perform as best as they can, just as teachers have done for me in the past”? Frankly, I doubt it. I guess it’s because there is very little honesty left in this world. I don’t want to put myself on a pedestal, but due to how competitive nature, society, whatever , has become – we become more dedicated to our own needs and reliant on our own selfish instinctual behaviours.