A nonsensical update.
Unfortunately, as life would have it, I have been unable to spend more time on creative outlets such as this blog. When I do have free time, I am either lethargic, unmotivated or uninspired. Either that, or I feel the need to do extra work and stay even more ahead of schedule for my lesson planning – though I’m slowly figuring out that this becomes redundant as I find myself revising over the prep I had done the other week. Speaking of working in my free time, I don’t think I’ll ever get around to publishing my research in a journal as my access to resources has been completely cut off (due to not being a Monash student anymore – this is when you really appreciate how much free access to information we had as a student). I am completely annoyed with this, despite knowing that I can’t have possibly expected myself to work on a journal submission first year out on a new job and in deep water. Big, fat, URGH.
Term 2 holidays is in sight – my goal is to try and edit my research paper so that it is publish-worthy. I’m 99% sure it won’t happen because I have no resources. But I also want to be 99% sure that I gave it my best shot regardless.
I need to give myself a break.
Valentines Day isn’t for everyone. And I’m sure that I posted a blog once upon a time, admonishing the idea of the annual celebration, and that the day should instead be about the love for one’s self or that everyday should be a day of love and appreciation. But instead of hating on people who post gaudy images of gifts and stuffed toys among a bouquet of overpriced short lived red roses, let’s all as cynics find a way to embrace the positives that can come from this special day – whether or not you’re hitched.
The day does not have to exclusively be about or for couples, which has been made abundantly clear by individuals particularly fond of promoting self-love. It’s a day that should, and I believe is increasingly becoming about universal love between friends, family, pets, the community, and even for the place or country you live in.
It’s so easy to: get caught up with your own life and problems, forget that others around you are probably enduring the same daily grind, take for granted or miss the small thoughtful gestures people might do for you. You may not see or understand the hype and excitement around Valentines Day, but the ruckus it causes could serve as a useful reminder to think about someone else other than yourself for a change, and may even prompt you to show your appreciation for the person who has shown you they care all the other times you were too busy dealing with problems life brings.
And what’s so bad about having a day that might reignite the flames of a relationship that has forgotten about romance? Although, of course, it should not take a particular day to motivate this kind of action, it might just be the saving grace for a relationship in dire need of some tlc.
So yes, Valentines Day is to some extent quite superficial – but it doesn’t have to be. It need not be adorned with sparkly what-nots or a hefty price tag or rose petals on top of bed sheets or bath tubs. Much like anything else in life, you’re in charge of making any day and every day a meaningful and worthwhile Valentines.
We celebrated our 10th year together (as well as Valentines Day) over the weekend in Geelong where Ken is currently studying.
We’re on the edge of Spring here in Melbourne, but with our temperamental weather you can simply never tell if it’s edging forward or backwards into Winter once more. Transitional fashion trends can be tricky especially as it involves tricky layering of what are essentially Spring pieces. Some of the trends I’ve noticed are the long line sleeveless cardigans, lightweight trench ‘coats’, one-shoulder tops, wrap-everything, airy wide legged pants and bell sleeves. All in the colours of a simple palette of neutrals and light muted colours (similar to that of trendy fashion insta accounts). It’s funny how we see similar trends translate across all fashion/design disciplines.
I love lightweight trousers, especially paired with a good pair of heels. I have on the Tony Bianco ‘Dakotah’, which looks deceitfully UNcomfortable – how can a pointed shoe with a tall stiletto heel ever be comfy?
For context, I’m a size 5-5.5 and I have narrow feet. Although I seem to have tiny feet, this does not mean that shoes don’t hurt on me. In fact, nearly all pointed shoes cause discomfort despite my narrow feet. However, to my surprise, these heels are unbelievable easy and comfortable to walk in for a long period of time. They’re soft (thanks to the suade leather) and they’re 10cm tall, just below my heel-competency threshold. The added lace up provides support at the ankle also. Honestly, I had started to think that this was just going to be a shoe that fills my trend-chasing desires. Thankfully, they fulfil so much more, offering practicality and an utterly flattering shoe fit for both the colder (shields them toes) and warmer months!
Some outfit photos over the months that have been buried in the 1000+ photos I managed to accumulate in my phone’s photo album. I am terrible at organising its content. It seems I am a true hoarder.